So, a couple weeks back, I finished up my reasons for leaving Christianity on facebook and am happy to move on to different topics there, although I do share an article or video from time to time that might be considered “controversial.”
As I mentioned in an earlier blog, some of my Christian facebook friends engaged me on my wall. Not to find understanding or common ground, but to argue. As time went on and my arguments for leaving more complex, their comments stopped for the most part. Once the comments stopped, I did write that I was surprised that my Christian friends weren’t coming forward to defend their beliefs given there were so many non believers on my wall and it was a great opportunity for them. That produced two comments to the tune of, it’s my faith and I believe it and I won’t try and defend it here. Translation: “I have no defense against your reasoning—so, I will play my faith card now—try and argue against that!” Okay, fair enough.
In my last status post, I tried to tie everything up in a big bow. There was so much I would have liked to have said, but I tried to summarize. The last part of the post went like this: “There’s just one last bit of business I need to take care of and that’s to quickly mention the things that had nothing to do with my de-conversion in the hope that I can quell some of the rumors that have been going around. I’m sorry to say that much of the gossip that has been swirling about the church community gets back to me and that probably hurts more than anything, but it is the Christian way, isn’t it?
So in closing, let me address those directly: I did not reject Christianity because I am mad at god, at people, or because I wanted to commit some sin. I did not de-convert because of my divorce, nor did I divorce because of my de-conversion. I did not de-convert because I was pre, mid, postmenopausal or hormonally imbalanced in some other way. I am not a lesbian (I like lesbians, but I am not one) and I did not have an affair. Hmmm…let’s see, I think that about covers it. Oh, and please refrain from having any more prayer gatherings for me, which involve invites that are sent over the Internet mentioning me by name and my state of apostasy. People are way to liberal with the forward button, and it is an invasion of my privacy.
So, to my dear Christian friends, I have now put forth my reasons for leaving as succinctly as I can. It is on you now to take me at my word.”
I received few comments on that last post, and the ones I did receive, were positive.
I feel good. I feel strong. I never thought I would have ever had the courage to write the things I did and yet, here I am. The best part about all this is the people I have encouraged in their de-conversion and those I have given renewed strength to. I received so many private messages in that regard and that, my friend, makes it all worthwhile.